Perfect Love, Imperfect Relationships: Healing the Wound of the Heart
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While most of us have moments of loving freely and openly, it is often hard to sustain this where it matters most—in our intimate relationships. Why, if love is so great and powerful, are human relationships so challenging and difficult? If love is the source of happiness and joy, why is it so hard to open to it fully and let it govern our lives? In this book, John Welwood addresses these questions and shows us how to overcome the most fundamental obstacle that ke… More >>
Perfect Love, Imperfect Relationships: Healing the Wound of the Heart
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Great title, useless material. I purchase a lot of audio programs and I threw this one out before I finished it
Rating: 1 / 5
I read Welwood’s “Journey of the Heart” years ago and I loved it, true I haven’t looked at it in years and I have gone through many changes since then in my thinking about relationships.
When I started reading this book I felt he was on the right track, we would always have imperfect relationships and “relative” love with others. I was greatful that someone was saying that so sanely and so clearly. I couldn’t imagine what he was going to tell us to do about that, the truth is there is really nothing we can do,as Ennis tells Jack in “Brokeback Mountain,” “If you can’t fix it, Jack, you gotta stand it.” We can get therapy and know more about ourselves but that’s not going to solve the problem of imperfect love– there is no cure for that.
Once he started to offer solutions, the same namby pamby well trodden over ideas that I have heard over and over by spiritual and religious types who think they have some kind of answer, I knew I couldn’t swallow more so I couldn’t read too much beyond the introduction and first coulple of chapters–Gee, and I used to like the guy!
He starts offering doctrine, all derivative stuff, stuff youv’e heard, at least I have, a thousand times. The same old it’s “wrong” to think this way, it’s “wrong” to act that way, as if he knew. Some people deserve to be unloved, rejected and judged, and doing that is not the destructive, shame on you, kind of thing Welwood wants to make of it. It is often constructive to judge, reject, dislike, hate (the other side of love) and reject others–please don’t tell me what to do, how to think and what is “right” and “wrong,” and please take your psycho-spiritual cliche ridden thinking somewhere else because you are doing a disservice, simply getting on the same old blathery band wagon of peace and love and slathering it over incontrovertible human problems and dilemmas.
I give him a 2 for original thinking or thinking for himself. Now put all this pablum down and find something else to read. Try Adam Phillips “Going Sane.”
Rating: 2 / 5
This book really gets to the heart of perfection….but is it attainable?
I found “Single a documentary film” really covered this is well.
http://www.singlefilm.com
It’s available on Amazon.com as DVD or Digital down load.
Rating: 4 / 5
Welwood is a good writer whose books read smoothly. My problem is that he borrows most of his ideas from people like author Stephen Levine. Read Levine’s book “Embracing the beloved: Relationship as a path of awakening” or “Gradual Awakening” and see what I’m talking about for yourself. Levine’s books predate Welwood’s by 10 and 30 years so there’s no question about whose robbing who.
Rating: 3 / 5
Excellent workshop, I highly recommend to anyone looking to further spiritual advancement either personally or within the context of a relationship. Read the book first!
Rating: 5 / 5